In my post last year called “Managing emotions” , I stated how important it is for both clients and Escorts to be able to understand the true nature of a meeting and the real level of the relationship which eschews.
Discretion is everything and maintaining a certain degree of separation is important. Whilst I acknowledge and fully embrace this, I believe some ladies do need to exercise the other side of their discretion and to be prepared to engage more warmly with those clients who are valued and trusted.
What I do find difficult is why some ladies cannot reconcile this and still maintain a degree of emotional warmth towards a regular client. Some are just cold, full stop, whilst others keep clients so much at arm’s length it paints a picture in one’s mind of a dangerous dog being handled at the end of a pole.
I do apologise if this sounds harsh or sweeping, yet I can only write based on my experiences. If most ladies do not relate to this analogy, that is good! However, there are those who do handle clients, even regular ones like this and it is not pleasant to be on the receiving end.
Yet, some clients are perfectly decent and trustworthy. They may demonstrate genuine loyalty through their patronage and surely possess some value to a lady in addition to the mere financial.
This may not be every client a lady sees and may even not be every regular client, yet there will be a few, I would hazard a guess, who do deserve a little more recognition.
Naturally, there are those who do not enjoy their job or even hate all men, but I am not talking about such extremes here. I am looking at the ladies who can be perfectly civil, but cannot quite bring themself to either trust a client, or to show genuine warmth towards him.
I am sorry if this sounds negative, but I am fed up with how often I have heard a lady say between meetings she was thinking of me, yet I hear nothing until the next booking rolls around. Without wishing to sound like a cynic, one does begin to wonder how genuine and sincere such sentiments are, particularly towards a regular and, hopefully trusted, client, if a lady cannot find the time to email or text a client and to tell him.
There is no point in showing genuine sentiments if one is not prepared to back it up with action. Believe me, I am busy and I cannot see ladies often as I like, yet I still like to drop them a note here and there to let them know I do not forget them the moment I walk out of the door, as some ladies perceive clients do as soon as the meeting is over. Surely this cuts both ways?
Is it really too much to expect for a client to feel valued? However, I believe it goes beyond this and it is simple human kindness, which costs nothing. Sometimes it just needs a bit of empathy, sometimes an enquiry as to how some upcoming event we discussed in our meeting went, sometimes it is just nice to know someone actually cares.
Sure I recognise the difficulties it can cause and the possible mixed messages, but ladies, just as clients do, need to exercise their judgement in whom they can trust and then to show it.
A lady will not connect with every regular client, as a gent will not with every lady. However, if a lady does connect and values either the client’s company and/or his business, it is best to demonstrate this with her actions than mere platitudes alone, otherwise she risks alienating him on some level and even losing a client.
I do hate having to write such posts, which sound either like a general rant or stick waving. The intention is to do neither, but I can only highlight what I see, experience and hear.
This may make certain issues uncomfortable or even contrary to most ladies’ opinion, but it nevertheless makes them no less real.
It is surely best to try to see an issue from both sides and, as such, I can only present a gentleman Punter’s view and it is up to others whether they wish to either believe or incorporate them.
Whilst some are naturally cold and emotionally disconnected, most are not, but some keep their barriers up so high, they cannot see what is happening on the other side, on the clients’ side of the fence.